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Plus help you discover meaningful work that you will love!
My aim is to help you answer:
* What is my purpose?
* Why life needs meaning?
* What are we here to do?
* How do I tell my story so people believe in me?
* How to turn negativity into opportunity.
Introduction: Disrupting the status quo - by design - I'm here to help you while-away August's doldrum with 'thought-food' to inspire harmony, meaning and fulfilment; maybe even challenge your thinking. Bear with me whilst I 'build' my point... stay with me! You know how I like to weave a backdrop... (To read on, click link below.)
Obviously, I am
borrowing the basis of my term from the scientific origins of synapse; which is
the minute gap in the brain’s communication system which transmits nerve impulses
to achieve thoughts, reactions, movements and memories. The word
"synapse" is derived from the Greek words "syn" and
"haptein" that mean "together" and "to clasp,"
In my Career Dovetail
Formula™, I define the anatomy of ‘The Ahah Moment’ when a person 'clasps' what work they were born to do. This is achieved by bridging that
elusive gap between our vocational identity and marrying this to a destination
in the World of Work which complements these ingredients. The Career Dovetail process implies a journey of docking the two sides of the career decision together.
In the same way, that ‘love at first sight’ is a rare occurrence. This rarely,
if ever, happens in an instant. Hence, I use the pieces of a jigsaw to denote
self-awareness because the picture is not always revealed until we piece each
ingredient together. There is a viscerality to it.
However, the falling
in love metaphor works really well in this instance. Before we meet our ‘life-partner’,
there is a period of, inevitably, being apart. When we become aware of a person
who is receptive and accepts us for who we are, completely. Then we experience
the union of the two separate halves. People frequently liken this as, meeting
our match, realising my better half, instant attraction, passionate chemistry,
to mention a few phrases related to this sparks flying moment. I once heard a
helpful definition of this love of a life-partner; which went something along
the lines of: a person who makes that significant other person complete by enabling the
fulfilment of their potential. And so it is with the notion of finding one’s
calling to do a particular occupation.
Before we encounter
our better half, we know there is a hole deep-down inside each of us which
could be said is a yearning, a longing, a void in our lives which compels so
many of us to quest for the answer. With the answer, in the context of love-matching,
being a person.
Does the same dynamic exist in the world of work? Unless
we inherit a fortune and literally never have to work in our lives, the vast majority
of the population will need to construct
some form of livelihood / work / employment / vocation. In essence, each of us supplies
our ‘talent’ to a market need. In the last twenty years, I have written
extensively on this dynamic of supply and demand. Back in 2004 I started to recognise
that what folks were questing for was their purpose in life.
The biggest obstacle to finding matches such as these, is
their intangibility: Perhaps not quite so portentous as finding our life-partner,
discovering our purpose in life is important, nonetheless. Equally so, is appreciating
our mission. Our purpose is over overarching guiding star; which, we must
accept, will never be held in our hand. Whereas, the skills of learning to
navigate towards it forms the palpability of our mission. Thus, we sculpt our mission
around our character traits, skills, competencies. Our purpose derives from our
values, aspirations, attitudes and dreams.
For example, my favourite
architect, American Frank
Lloyd Wright’s purpose was designing structures that sit in harmony with
humanity and the environment. As such, he pioneered whole architectural movements
and schools of thinking, such as ‘The
Prairie School’. Although he achieved far more than this in his remarkable lifetime,
I love his work because he took an holistic approach. Underpinning his unique
purpose, were the ingredients forming his mission. As a game-changing
innovator, among his repertoire of skills (verbs), he mastered drawing, designing, harmonising,
envisioning, sympathising, researching, synthesising and leading, in accomplishing
the widely acknowledged greatness we recognise as his legacy still.
Ahead of docking the two-sides of the purpose equation
together, there is a divide: The chemistry of
love and passion has yet to occur. We know this deep-down in our souls because
there are forces which instinctually tell us there are things are still to
happen. This sense of anticipation fuels our quest. We all have it. I experienced this longing to identify
my purpose, to satisfy the longing to maximise my innate potential throughout
the course of my teens and twenties. For me, it was not until I had torn through
35 jobs in the first 32 years of my life that I experienced my epiphany. (#Gratitude!)
Yet, much like the ‘before and after’ version of a person who
has found their love-match, so it is for the person who decodes their occupational
DNA in the alchemy of epiphany. Tuning-in to their raison d'être. Sparking
knowingness. The most interesting reaction to which is always, “Of course! It’s obvious what I am going to
do with my life! How come I didn’t realise this before now?!”