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Tuesday 18 December 2012
Career Sustainability - careers advice, inspiration and mental stimulation for job hunters: What's the difference between success, happiness a...
Career Sustainability - careers advice, inspiration and mental stimulation for job hunters: What's the difference between success, happiness a...: ... and falling short of your dreams? Before reading this item, please take a moment to visualise those people you have seen who are fu...
What's the difference between success, happiness and achievement....
... and falling
short of your dreams?
Duncan Bolam © 2012
Before reading this item, please take a moment to visualise those
people you have seen who are fulfilling their dreams, and those who aren't
there yet.
What is the difference between them?
I’d hazard an educated guess that a lot of what you’re seeing in
the successful person is in their physical posture.
What do I mean when I say ‘physical posture’?
Let’s face it successful people tend to give-off an aura. It is
deeper than just looking confident; they carry
themselves differently, they act differently, they think differently and this positive
energy is often regarded as ‘attractive’ in much the same way as magnetic
energy attracts.
You can always recognise the people who have ‘it’ because they
tend to look above the
horizon. They aren't looking
curled-up in a ball or looking at their feet as if they worry that they’re
going to fall down a crack in the pavement. They've no use of superstition
because their 'glass is half full' and
they’re consistently optimistic. They have faith in what the future holds and
stride out towards it proactive, confident and eager.
The Hedgehog Effect: Just like the hedgehog’s
instinct to roll-up into a ball, there are times when I have met clients for
the first time when they are physiologically and psychologically rolled-up
tightly in a ball of self-preservation; as if rolling with punches. Somehow they
have lost their faith in the benevolence of the universe and seek to protect
themselves from being harmed. I often see clients in this state following long
periods of unemployment or experiencing the grief of redundancy.
There are osteopaths, Bowen therapists, Hellerworkers, and body
alignment experts that help release this pent-up anxiety from our bodies. I
regularly encounter this physical manifestation of anxiety and stress as it
prevails in people who have not experienced fulfilment and meaning in their
work because they have yet to piece-together their career attributes to form a
sustainable career plan; the people who are still wrestling with themselves to
discover their own identities and define their mission in life.
Determination – probability, nature or nurture:
Looking back now, with the luxury of 20/20 hindsight, I survived
that difficult transition between childhood, adolescence and adulthood because
the activities I was good at fed me an inner strength. In the main, if
it wasn't for sport and my love for The
Arts, I would have struggled much more.
Deep down inside I knew I possessed positive potential and that it
was surely a case of just keeping going and one
day I would end-up
discovering success, achievement and happiness. It was just a matter of time.
I have no clue where this deep instinct stems from, nurture or
nature, but I suppose I am lucky that I sensed it was innate within. A long
time ago I came to realise that everyone has an innate talent within; it is
just a case of circumstance, perseverance and positivity whether they ever
experience the warmth of its glow.
I made a breakthrough in my life when I realised how other people
had struggled with the same hurdles I had experienced and when a very kind
tutor explained to me how insanely unkind the perfectionist character trait can
be because we constantly use it to ensure happiness is always just that inch or
two out of reach. He helped me understand that my “good enough, might be equivalent
to somebody else’s best”. It
was like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders and I never looked back.
It wasn't the past that was going to determine my
future…
...it was my decisions in the ‘here and now’
Even though our future course is borne-out of extrapolating the
trajectory and themes of our past accomplishments (and failures), potential
will always outweigh previous experience; this is how we fuel forward momentum.
How we act upon this potential right
now, today governs our future
course, our potential for success, happiness and achievement. No great oak ever
grew from an acorn that was not 'anchored’. It is a challenging life-lesson to
absorb, but our environment is a mirror to our actions. We can influence ‘Darwinian probability’ in the way we represent ourselves
to our surroundings as image determines our horizons in life. ‘The expressions we meet on other
people’s faces tend to reflect the look we transmit to them’. Hence a sincere smile - reinforced
by a self-assured character - is such a disarming weapon in life.
Positivity building-blocks:
As we know from ‘The Secret’, ‘What the Bleep’, and
the infinite pool of knowledge on ‘self-help’ and ‘positive thinking’ espoused
by visionary thinkers like Dr Norman Vincent Peale, William Clement Stone, and
founder of sports psychology Coleman Griffith, there are some essential
ingredients to performing well:
- Do what it
takes to germinate the magic in desire – get
hungry, want to be successful, fill the void with it and use it to launch
yourself.
- Strive for
Inspiration – find a field you are passionate about otherwise you will
never find the motivation necessary to persevere over the long haul.
- Identify where
your skills lie. Develop your technique – practice, practice, practice.
Hone the attributes you have been ‘given’ until your mastery infects you
with conviction and purpose.
- Disarm
your past mistakes out of the same kindness you would bestow on any other
young person who was beating themselves up with negativity born from past
errors. Move forward and grow from experience. Look forward and outwards
not inwards.
- Nurture calm
and rejuvenation in your bedroom and turn it in an oasis of calm as it is
proven that disrupted sleep exacerbates troubled spirits. Master your
thoughts through calmed breathing with inspiring books and tranquil
meditation in order to cleanse your mind of the days’ strains.
- Above all
enter each day pointing all your faculties at your ‘beacon of purpose’. What is it that you wish to
marshal your career attributes towards? Progress is continuous personal
development, self-encouragement and confidence-growing; whereas, the stuck, entrenched
and stagnant en route to inevitable decline.
Encourage-meant:
Sometimes by providing for others what we actually seek ourselves
we are recognising human need. Heartfelt encouragement given to others is an
empowering lever in building cohesion, connectedness and cultivating the
essential benefits of team-spiritedness and community; especially when we share
our successes and goals.
This helpful realisation often comes as a great surprise to my
clients, who may have experienced long periods of feeling lonely, isolated and
withdrawn, that through their altruism they inject within themselves far more
optimism at a time when the natural instinct is to be alone and withdraw.
Remember: Respect is
very much a 2-way street.
Connecting-with and communing-with others:
The reality is that few champions taste success from the confines
of solitude. Achievement, in the main, is built upon united effort, linked with
unconditional equality, connected via our ability to depend on others, as it
bonds communities invested toward a common good. This is why ‘employee-owned’ organisations like The John Lewis
Partnership in the UK do so
well – because they share the
incentive and the trust.
Very few inward-looking, isolated egocentrics sustain success over
the long haul without cultivating more open partnerships with others buying
into similar value systems and shared motivations for succeeding. Hence good
communications, clear boundaries and respect form the glue that binds every
worthwhile success.
Forgiving Mavericks: It’s
worth remembering that it can be difficult to find one’s way back into the team
dynamic if time has been spent on the periphery. At the same time we should be
mindful that the most innovative of minds belong to the most unconventional
characters and for them to conform risks amputating their innate brilliance.
Remember real value is borne from invention and invention is
disruptive by definition. Sharing achievement is likely to involve
adaptability, lateral-thinking, and the occasional ability to forgive a
once-adversary who may well be more like you than you’d care to admit! Any such
magnanimity requires great maturity.
Learn to recognise the tiny margins between success and failure:
As is so often the case in this
life love/hate, friends/enemies, success/failure are the same coin seen from
differing perspectives with the tiniest of fractions differentiating the
various viewpoints. Similarly, beware of perfectionism; as it can be a very
unrealistic, self-defeating and an overly-rigid trait. [Beware ultimatums as
they execute When is our striving for the highest of standards good for us and
when is it eroding us away? When is a task finished and when is a task being
unnecessarily finessed?
The keystone to happiness is knowing when to stop digging and start
constructing; alongside the acceptance that building a life's mission
starts with recognising, liking and understanding what talents you possess and appreciating what you’re
going to do with them - everyday.
Acceptance of what can and can't be changed is elemental.
It might take decades to put the roof on the house of your dreams,
but you’re better-off knowing that it is built on firm foundations and that
every day you step back to see that the incremental steps, not matter how
small, see the walls growing upwards and taking you nearer to your ultimate
goal.
A ‘patient summary’:
Perhaps this is why many of our most famous celebrities point-out
that it took them a lifetime of error-laden perseverance to become an overnight success! I believe we can only truly measure
our success when we can clearly state our values. Only then can we credibly
interpret whether our achievements equate to actual success because it is only
then that our work is meaningful.
Concentrated endurance seeds worthy achievement;
passion-led talent fuels it.
The Career
Dovetail Formula & Talent Triangles:
Strengthening
wellbeing by dovetailing more people into sustainable careers.
Friday 14 December 2012
Standing the Conventions of Traditional Job-hunting Techniques Upside-down:
Richard Nelson Bolles is unquestionably the grandfather and
guru-on-high of modern job-hunting techniques. I consider myself very lucky to
have Dick as a longstanding friend and to have understudied him during his
world-famous 2-week workshop in Bend, Oregon. Dick’s famous book, ‘What Color Is Your Parachute?’, has
been THE Number 1 best-selling book for career-changers and job-hunters for many
generations; with a refreshed version coming out every year since 1967.
For me there
is one particularly outstanding quote in the book:
“Many If Not Most Employers Hunt for Job-Hunters…
…in the Exact Opposite Way from How Most Job-Hunters Hunt for
Them”
In spite of the proven
wisdom contained in Dick’s inspirational book, nearly everyone I meet wrestles
with the sagely advice within. They continue to expend their energies on applying
to newspaper ads, sending-off unsolicited CVs and wasting hours applying to
faceless companies online. I even find it hard to translate this wisdom to
close family members who quite literally look at me as if I have two heads when
I suggest they dump the CV/resumé, take the focus off recruitment agencies and
get out there talking to people who share their passions with some well-prepared-for
and energising informational meetings.
Since entering the careers development profession back in
1997, following a 2 year training programme, I have built a straightforward
body of evidence which supports the generally accepted Rule of Thumb that
roughly 60 to 85% of jobs are found through networking and ‘Word-of-Mouth’
recommendations (depending upon industrial sector and professional discipline).
Hirers much prefer to hire someone who they know a little
about. If they come recommended then that can save a mountain of potentially
costly misunderstanding and pain for both parties. Consider the consequences of
getting that fleeting decision wrong if you’re The Hirer; after all, how many
job interviews last more than 1 or 2 hours and how accurate can they be in
forming such an important decision?
Nepotism is a fact of life… and
who can blame them:
As much of an example of
favouritism as it is, and as ‘What Color
Is Your Parachute?’ so accurately states, the ideal scenario for the employer
is to hire from within, to promote a proven member of staff whose quality of
work you know; second to which would be to hire a contractor or temporary
worker who is already known to the organisation, and so on. So if you’re the
Job Hunter starting from a cold start, how do you compete, how do you amplify
your chances?
As much as it remains an inspiration, a famous J.K. Rowling quote also
sums-up how painful unemployment can be:
“Rock-bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt
my life.”
Back in 1994 I was in the midst of a desperate and
protracted term of unemployment after I lost a job that I loved, when, refusing
to lose faith, my quest for inspiration led me to my first ever, full-blown,
career guidance interview. As tough as it can be to accept, especially if you have
been unemployed for long period, you have no money, and you might even be at
your lowest ever emotional ebb, we have to maintain faith in good things
happening. My career guidance interview signified a transformation in my
fortunes and a whole new direction for my life. All these years on and I still
recognise it as the turning-point of my life.
It is a fact of life that there are times in our lives where
we make our own luck. Navigating low-points are good examples. It would be
grossly naïve to think we could walk through life unhindered. So what is it that
we’re left with when we really, really have reached rock-bottom? I found that I
achieved greater clarity about what was and what wasn’t important to me. For me
it boiled down to people, community and loved-ones. Above all I learnt that I wanted
to help others; especially to help young people avoid the pitfalls that
inevitably befall us. And I wanted to leave the planet a better place than
where I found it, to leave a legacy.
Solace in Solitude & Scarcity:
The sheer intensity
of reflection provided by poverty meant I could draw contrast with incredible
clarity at the great times and was better able to recognise what it was that I
was good at or what it was about a certain set of circumstances that enabled me
to perform to my maximum potential. I knew much more about what I wanted and
what I missed. Reviewing the great moments granted me from my love of sport
worked as great indicators and excellent ‘practice’ at recognising when my
actions were working well.
As a county golfer,
basketball player and rugby player, if ever I pictured myself doing well it was
always with a smile on my face and great focus on a particular objective to
which all my physical and mental attributes were pointed. Admittedly, not
everyone is a lover of sport, but all of us possess a passion or an interest in
a particular field (or as Dick Bolles calls them ‘Fields of Fascination’), be it fashion, animals, mathematics,
stamp-collecting, movies, glass-blowing, history, spirituality, music,
carpentry, fast cars… and so on. The list is endless. Identifying our interests
is key to
sparking our enthusiasm as it will fuel our progress throughout the whole of our
career. It also instils an incredibly powerful advantage over our competitors.
‘The Art of Positive Thinking’
possesses incredible power. Our innate ability to visualise ourselves doing
well can almost guarantee success. When we learn to back our own ideas we reap
far greater dividends and tap into hidden strengths. Furthermore, we can never
expect others to believe in us if we don’t believe in ourselves. But when we’re
feeling down-and-out and despondent the reality is that thinking positively can
seem very a far-fetched luxury. Rest-assured, somewhere deep within, lays
incredible strength and resolve.
How do we build enthusiasm, passion and interest if we haven’t got it?
Informational meetings with ‘like-minded’ people form the mainstay
of Dick Bolles’s (and my own) approach to successful job-hunting. Let’s not
diminish how much bravery it takes to get yourself out there and start asking
people questions about their work. Life can deal us some mean cards. One of the
most ironic of all is how life asks us to feel upbeat and confident about
ourselves, just at the time when we’re feeling rock-bottom and bereft of our
working identity.
There are many ways
of building the preamble to get you in position for an informational meeting.
I’d suggest buying ‘What Color Is Your
Parachute?’ or getting yourself down to your nearest library and doing the
necessary background reading. Here is the gist of the questions I get my
clients to ask:
(In line with best practice,
apply the questionnaire in person because actually witnessing how your respondents
answer questions is a key part of the process; which may lead to adaptations
and additions being made as appropriate. Plus it helps build ‘chemistry’ and
that all-important rapport we’re looking for.)
1.
How
did you get your job and/or get promoted to your present position?
a. Was there any particular person who helped
you with this?
b. What hiring channel proved most successful?
i. responding to newspaper articles
ii. internet research
iii. speculative approaches - writing directly
to the employer
iv. recruitment agencies
v. Word-of-mouth recommendation
vi. Informational meetings
2.
What
does your job actually involve on a daily basis? What are your main activities?
3.
What
do you feel is your No.1 competency or skill that you enjoy using most in this
job?
a.
Was
this skill innate
b.
Or is
it something you have developed whilst working?
c.
Does
this competency correlate or link to your interests?
4.
Could
you name your Top 3 Values? (e.g. recognition, sense of team, legacy, financial
gain, power, creativity, helping others, there are many more…)
5.
In
terms of education and training, what qualification has been most useful in
your job?
6.
What
is it about your personality which suits you to your work? (e.g. are you
outgoing, do you concentrate well, are you happy working alone, etc?)
7.
What
do you like least about your job?
8.
Do you
have any additional advice for somebody attempting to break into this field?
9.
I
wonder if you can put me in touch with 3 people from your network who share
your working passions/interests, who you think would be willing to answer these
questions. Contact name & details:
i)
ii)
iii)
NB: Trust me on this; never fail to
send your respondents and hand-written 'Thank You' for their time.
Informational Meetings truly bear fruit when you and your interviewee share such common interest that you both get very enthusiastic about the subject matter! Sometimes I have even known the rapport to be so good that the interviewer – You – is offered a job right there and then. When you’ve really done your homework on the organisation, and you’re really well-prepared, well-versed in your field of expertise and fuelled by your professional passions, the ‘fit’ between you and the company you are interviewing is all too obvious and they know you will very quickly add value, contribute great ideas and generally inject much-needed enthusiasm into their firm. So they just have to hire you to stop the competition from getting you!
This is all well and good, I
hear you say, if you’re a young person starting-out on your career. But what of
the workers whose industries have died, or the company owners have moved the
operations nearer to cheaper labour sources. That work is not coming back
anytime soon. This is where we have to ask ourselves what our transferrable
skills are. What fields are
connected to the work I once did and how to get into them.
Job Hunting Strategies:
Apart from trying to stay away from your pc
during the daytime when you can meet people instead, I’d strongly suggest
getting strategic about your job hunt. You will need a well-organised base, or
desk, and you’ll need to do a lot of information gathering and planning.
Dumping your thoughts down on paper either into a journal or diagrammatically,
can be very helpful. I love mindmaps as they connect-up what might appear to be
random thoughts and help us see patterns where they might otherwise remain
invisible.
Extrapolating patterns from past
performance can be incredibly empowering when it comes to building a plan for
the future. Patterns point to proficiency, passion and potential, but recognising them is not always
easy! Even if we are building from our past mistakes, an historic perspective
can be very enlightening; as it provides lots of clues. For example, this is
why we ask the question: What do you like
least about your job? Because at least from understanding what we don’t
like we are stepping towards what we do!
[I believe that there could be a sinister
backdrop to employment trends and I have written about this extensively
elsewhere. My fear is that growing numbers of corporations see the only way of
increasing their profit margins being to ‘offshore’ and ‘outsource’ their
labour costs by moving to increasingly cheaper sources of workers. The simple
point I make here is how they risk shooting themselves in the foot if they take
wages away from their local consumers by doing so. There can be little doubt
that quality suffers as The West is many decades ahead in the adeptness of
skill required to manufacture well-made products. Due to these short-sighted
and economically naïve policies many once great companies have alienated their
regular customers and robbed themselves of financial stability in the long
term. Cheap goods are not always good goods. Unlike Detroit-based car-makers
who stood still, the antidote is generating innovations and producing
leading-edge thinkers fuelled by passion and the striving to make the World a
better place.]
In parallel much of The West’s accrued vocational
capital has stagnated from lack of investment in apprenticeships and training.
In his compellingly beautiful book, written with his mastery of words, ‘The Case for Working with Your Hands or Why
Office Work is Bad for Us and Fixing Things Feels Good’ Matthew Crawford encourages
us to consider enriching our lives with more fulfilling and meaningful work.
The
All-Important Skill of Rapport-Building:
Stop for one moment to consider the
all-important skill of ‘rapport-building’.
If you enter into a job interview not prepared to build rapport with your
interviewer, then don’t waste your time or theirs. How do we build rapport? It
stems from common ground. This can be
physical, in that we mirror their body language and look and feel good in
ourselves and we are seen to be attractive. And/or we strike up rapport by
discovering that we share common values, interests, character traits,
qualifications, language, hometowns, football teams… the list goes on, but you
get my gist - we build rapport on shared
passions.
Audits
& Forecasts:
Now that we have spoken to other people
about what fuels their successful careers, and we have absorbed their insight
into their business, we are in a much better position to formulate our own career
strategy. One of the most powerful techniques that I learnt during my career
development training was the ‘Career Narrative’. Here we develop career-related
stories about our work-based achievements and are helped to interrogate our database of experience for the
kinds of skills that we good at an enjoy using.
As with our ‘Patterns of Potential’ we will start to see recurring themes. This
will also by now be building our confidence. We will start to see our
vocational identity more clearly and understand the kind of people and firms we
need to being talking to to build our careers by making ourselves more relevant.
We have really cracked our career strategy
when we have extrapolated our research so accurately that we can list the
companies that we want to go and work for and the individuals in those
organisations that we should be writing to or calling up to request
informational meetings with.
Purpose
& Conviction:
Here again, I have written about this
subject extensively elsewhere, but the message I wish to convey here concerns the
difference between someone possessing a sense of purpose and conviction and
those who don’t. As stated earlier, it is easy for someone to say these things
when they’re not feeling down-and-out and devoid of confidence. And this is the
key to success - don’t ‘go-to-market’ until
you have it. Your marketplace is finite, there are only so many
companies who will employ someone with your skill-set and career attributes in
your area. Don’t squander valuable opportunities – and energy - by being ill-prepared.
Going back to the use of positive
visualisation, imagine for a moment a gymnast running at a vaulting horse.
Imagine then sprinting down the runway about to throw themselves over the horse
if they don’t believe in their ability to succeed. It’s simply going to end in
tears isn’t it? They aren’t going to run fast enough, they’ll be thinking about
how much they’re going to hurt themselves and just not concentrating on the
important action of taking-off the springboard, placing their hands in the
right place, and landing safely on both feet.
Whereas, in contrast, the gymnast who has
prepared, honed their strength and technique through repeated practice, knows
exactly what actions they need to carry–out, in what sequence, to perform well
and can sprint, take-off and land like a well-oiled machine. They possess the
qualities of self-belief, mental-surety, physical prowess and an attractiveness
associated with their knowing they’re good at what they do.
In
summary:
Job-hunting can be a lonely activity. It is also part of the Human Condition that we are not very
good at looking inwardly and being objective about where our strengths and
weaknesses lie when working alone. The best sportsmen and women in the world
hire coaches to hold a mirror up and show them where they are going wrong and
celebrate what they’re doing right. The lesson here is to try not to job-hunt
alone. If you can’t hire a Career Coach to help you, club-together and share
one, or gather together with others in the same position as a form of peer
support or ask your friends and family for help.
The point remains the same, “Many If Not Most Employers Hunt for
Job-Hunter in the Exact Opposite Way from How Most Job-Hunters Hunt for Them.”
If you are not savvy to this and react accordingly, the risk is you will remain
stuck. ‘The Path of Least Resistance’ as
I call it, involves strengthening your job hunting armoury by never shooting at
a job you don’t love with a sawn-off shotgun and no conviction. In stark
contrast you are doing whatever it takes to aim at jobs you sincerely love,
firing your heartfelt enthusiasm down the barrel of a high velocity rifle and
taking aim with the precision of telescopic sights.
From my perspective, built on many years of
experience, as hunter and coach, the labour market falls into two camps: 90% of
the people I meet are in the wrong job, not engaged by their work at all, or
paralysed by long term unemployment – they
are the ‘Reactive
Majority’. Then there are the 10% ‘Proactive Minority’ who know
what they want and exactly where they’re
going to get it. Remember, if your job isn’t out there, build it yourself! Harness your
creativity, create your own recipe, build your own business and fly free!
Which camp do you want to be in – reactive, or proactive and free to call the
shots yourself?
Duncan Bolam © 2012
The
Career Dovetail Formula: Strengthening
wellbeing by dovetailing more people into sustainable careers.
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